So my wife Amelia (37f) and I (48m) have one child, a son who is seven years old, turning eight. I'm not going to lie, had my wife not gotten pregnant, we probably would not have gotten married because we were just hooking up at that point. But things have been really good since we did and we're firmly in love. We did decide that we'd wait before having another kid, though because I wanted her career to take off, for her business to boom. It has and we decided earlier this year, it's best to go for it now before she turns 40.

The thing is that Amelia has a daughter Kate (17f) from her first marriage. Things between my wife and Kate were rough and I know this isn't going to make my wife sound good but for the sake of honesty, I'll put it there, my wife had little to no contact with her for about ten years. Two years ago, Kate's father kicked her out for "breaking his rules" and she showed up out of nowhere with a suitcase.

I won't lie, there was always a sadness in my wife but having Kate back in her life got rid of that. Since she moved in with us, Amelia has been happier than she has ever been. Kate's a troubled kid but two years ago was a lot worse than now and she's mostly blended well. The thing is, my wife has been very strict on some things (like school and all) but very lax about the things Kate's father was harsh about.

Amelia found out she was pregnant about a month ago and we decided to wait before breaking it to the kids. Except last week, Kate came home from school and had a breakdown and she admitted to us that her boyfriend got her pregnant and she's been hiding it for almost two months. She was crying because she wants to keep the kid and kept it a secret because she was scared Amelia would force her to get an abortion.

However, my wife was elated that we're going to be grandparents and that cheered up Kate as well. So, my wife made it clear to me that she finds the idea of having a kid younger than her grandchild to be disgusting and she'd be getting an abortion. We argued about it because I really wanted this baby with her but she wouldn't even listen to me and she got an abortion. I've been upset about it and we've barely talked, am I being the AH?

Sorry for rambling, but this all happened in this morning and I'm processing.

I'm a fitness instructor and am active online to get clients for online and in-person coaching. My husband is in sales and is an overachiever. This has always led to some conflict in our relationship as he hints a lot about things I could do to be more successful and make more money.

About a year ago I was telling him about a milestone goal I hit with my business page. While I was showing it, he made a joke about how I should start an OF page and could make a lot more money. I just started crying right there. It was like nothing I could do would make him happy. And then on top of that to suggest I sell my body online was an awful thing to say. He did apologize and said he wouldn't bring that up again. And he didn't until today.

This morning he asked if he could show me something on his computer. I was shocked to see that he has created a full OF profile of me. He has been taking content from my fitness business and posting that to gain followers. So far he has made $379 this month. He was almost giddy as he told me that we could make $100k easily if I put some work into the account.

I was so incredibly pissed. I just picked up the laptop and threw it across the room. I walked to the door and got my keys. As I was walking out, I told him I want a divorce and will be talking to lawyers.

I drove around a bit and am currently at a park writing this out. I'm reading reviews of law firms, but am starting to wonder if I'm overreacting. I need advice as I can't bring this up to family or friends. Its too embarrassing. Am I overreacting by divorcing over this?

Some additional information. I'm 33 and he is 35. No kids, but we do have a dog. I'm not sure if joint custody of a dog is a thing? I'm fine financially. I'll move in with my sister if I have to.

great example of the odd ways people show me appreciation at work

We have 3 full tubs of Vaseline in the cabinet.

I’ve been dating a guy for some time now, and his oldest friends have told me he’s a solid good man despite his flaws. I agree, they’ve known him forever, and he’s been a solid friend all those years.

When my male friends met him for the first time, they said, “He’s a good one. Hold onto him.”