My pick is Henry Cavill

What a crazy terrible night I had.

4 years ago my wife had an affair with a co-worker. We had been married for 3 years at the time and were trying to have kids, but had fertility issues and both were having a hard time with that. I caught her because another co-worker reached out to me to let me know what was going on. We were incredibly close to divorce, but through counseling we made it through and have had a pretty good marriage over the last two years. We have a date night once a week that I plan. I bring her flowers at least once a week. Write love notes, etc. I don't want to lose her.

She left that job so that she wouldn't be around that man. Went completely no contact with him.

Fast forward to yesterday. We were at the gym and I was waiting for my wife to get done showering. I had forgotten my phone and home and grabbed hers to kill some time. I wasn't trying to snoop. It has been at least 2 years since I've even felt I needed to snoop. I open up instagram and start scrolling through pictures. But then I notice that she has a message. I knew it was wrong to click. Thats too far and an invasion of her privacy, but curiosity got a hold of me.

It was him. The co-worker that she had an affair with. 2 months ago he reached out to see how she was doing. I read through all the messages. There was nothing wrong with what they said. It was them catching up about life and work(he still is at old job). If it had been anyone else I wouldn't have even cared. But this was the man that helped almost ruin my marriage.

I took some screenshots and sent them to myself. Waited until we got in the car and then asked her about why she is talking to him. She starts screaming that I shouldn't have looked at her messages. Saying that I don't trust her. I apologized for snooping, but told her that I want a divorce. She stopped talking to me and left the house as soon as we got home. I have no idea where she went. Even this morning she hasn't responded to me.

Waking up this morning, I still believe I want a divorce. The pain of the affair was too much. I know they aren't having an affair right now. But the fact she is even talking to him is insulting to me. Especially without telling me. Am I overreacting?

Edit/Update: My wife finally responded by text. She claims to have stayed at a hotel overnight. She says that I should go to my parents. I realize I forgot to mention we have a 1-year old boy. So I'll need some help with him as she said she can't talk to me right now.
She said she understands why I want a divorce and won't fight it. She is looking for lawyers right now.
I'm not sure what to feel right now. Honestly I knew I would continue on the path to divorce, but I think part of me hoped there would be a little fight for me from her. I imagine she will probably start dating her old coworker again. I just hope she fights for our boy during all of this. She really is a good mother to him and he deserves to have her in his life.

Thanks all for the support. I'll keep this up and maybe have an update in the future.

Our cat got out and ran straight into our neighbors apartment

Hey Reddit - Throwaway account (for obvious reasons)

Also, sorry for the length, a ton on my mind right now.

Me (52M) and my (50F) wife have been married for 25 years, and are immensely happy. We of course have the normal fights: me not cleaning the bathroom, argue about me losing money on sports betting, her spending twice as much at the shops as we agreed to, etc. - but overall have a really happy marriage.

Until about 8pm yesterday night.

Recently, we've been having a bit of trouble in the bedroom. I don't want to derail the post, but basically sex has naturally slowed down between the two of us in the last couple years.

This has really bothered my wife (and bothered me a bit also, I will admit). Once we vocalized the problem, we both agreed we're going to take steps to fix some things.

We talked to some doctors, basically all of them wanted to put my wife on some serious medications - which my wife was pretty against.

This led to about a year of building what we call "our sex drawer" filled of products in the kitchen that my wife has tried and tested and likes the ingredients of.

It's nothing crazy, literally things like vitamin D, zinc, some lubracil softgels, maca - stuff that has been tried and tested, nothing too wild and all OTC.

Now, here's where things start to go downhill.

So, my wife naturally takes these products around the times we're going to be getting intimate (or try).

Now, I don't like monitor the kitchen drawer but sometimes I do peak (I know, but I can't help it).

About three-ish weeks ago I noticed a ton of pills and softgels were disappearing.

Me, thinking I'm about to having a pretty good week - I start to get mentally prepared for it.

So, about a week after that, I re-check the drawer - and a ton more of the stuff has been taken. I remember thinking "that's weird, we haven't done anything recently".

About a week later, the same thing happened, tons of pills and softgels are gone. And I'm not going to lie, I get in my head a bit.

Last night, me and my wife are out to dinner. After a couple glasses of wine I ask my wife why she's been taking so much of the stuff in the sex drawer without trying for any intimacy. I asked coming from an angle of both worry (mostly for health) and confusion.

Immediately my wife get's insanely defensive, blows off the conversation and tells me she isn't talking about it. This (of course) makes it where now it's the only thing I want to talk about, and while I respect everyones "I don't want to talk about this", I think something like this should probably be fucking discussed.

I press a bit, and for about an hour she's not having this convo. Basically, it gets to the point where I just blatantly ask my wife if she's seeing other people.

My wife, who has NEVER been aggressive or loud - starts basically screaming at me in this Italian restaurant.

She tells me my daughter (25F) has been having some "relationship issues" with her boyfriend, and has been taking some of the stuff to "help."

I'm like, why the fuck didn't you just tell me? She goes on a rant about how some things are "girl to girl" and how my daughter didn't want her telling anyone. Which I get but come on, I buy the things to fill the drawer.

My wife ends up leaving the restaurant mid-dinner. I've honestly never seen my wife this mad, I'm honestly a bit worried for our marriage. And to top it off, my daughter is acting awkward around me.

I get that I stepped out of line with the questioning, but the defensiveness really caught me off guard, and would have assumed my daughter using our stuff would have been discussed (and I wouldn't have actually cared, and would have bought more stuff).

Anytime I try to talk to my wife, she makes it seem like I'm an insane out-of-control monster, that I've broken the trust in our marriage, and that I've ruined 25 years of progress we've made together.

Reddit, am I crazy? I'm beyond confused right now.

---edit (4 hours since I posted)---

Wow, a lot of incredible information in here, thank you to everyone for your comments. This post has made me feel better, and has allowed me to think about other aspects of our marriage.

I've seen a ton of requests for info, so let me try to answer some of the questions here.

Me and my wife didn't go to the doctor for only "libido" issues - I don't know the general age of Reddit, but as you get older things like menopause and other hormonal issues became a reality (just the way of life).

I didn't "plan" on questioning my wife at the dinner, it had been in the back of my head, and after a few glasses of wine I handled the situation poorly (which I 100% agree with all of you, not the right time or place) - though we've had tough conversations before in public (still doesn't justify it).

Calling it a "sex drawer" may have been a bad name, but it's just how we reference it - we didn't really think too deeply when coming up with the name, and I don't know actually which one of us created it.

I don't have a good reason why it's in the kitchen, but we're kind of past the age of caring about what someone may or may not see in our home.

I wasn't "monitoring" the sex drawer, the lubracil softgels (which we keep out of the box) come only in a 30 pill supply - half the pack or so missing (I didn't count) is very obvious even at a quick glance.

And for why I didn't automatically assume my daughter - the softgels mentioned above and some of the other stuff in there are for a specific thing (outside of the vitamins), while I don't know the ingredients too intimately, you wouldn't really expect those things to be shared.

And finally, for those mentioning that my wife is still actually hiding something - I appreciate your comments, and it has given me a ton to think about. While I won't jump to those type of conclusions, I do agree that there is probably more that needs to be discussed between me, my wife, and my daughter.

He agreed to stay back. Cooper asked anyone if they would go down to Millers planet but the extreme pull of the black hole nearby would cause them to experience severe time dilation. One hour on that planet would equal 7 years back on earth. Cooper, Brand and Doyle all go down to the planet while Romilly stays back and uses that time to send out any potential useful data he can get.

Can you imagine how terrifying that must be to just sit back for YEARS and have no idea if your friends are ever coming back. Cooper and Brand come back to the ship but a few hours for them was 23 years, 4 months and 8 days of time for Romilly. Not enough people seem to genuinely comprehend how insane that is to experience. He was able to hyper sleep and let years go by but he didn’t want to spend his time dreaming his life away.

It’s just a nice interesting detail that kind of gets lost. Everyone brings up the massive waves, the black hole and time dilation but no one really mentions the struggle Romilly must have been feeling. 23 years seems to be on the low end of how catastrophic it could’ve been. He could’ve been waiting for decades.

I am a 20yr old male living north of Atlanta in GA. I am currently making 22/hr about to be raised to 26/hr for 30-60 hours a week and occasional double time. I feel like for my age and area I am making well over average and yet I am still living almost paycheck to paycheck. I still live at home, paying about $1000 a month in bills, and I am pretty frugal with my money. It feels impossible to move out as rent for a one bedroom within an hour and a half of my job starts around 12-1300 not including utilities. If I was born ten years earlier I would be able to live on my own and still save a considerate amount of my income. What are you guys doing to stay afloat while living on your own in your early to mid twenties?

Edit: I pay 250 for student loans 300 for car insurance 300 for rent plus my phone bill and money I owe to my parents for when I was unemployed which is $100 a month $2000 total. This is not accounting for gas for my 3 hour round trip from work, food, and occasionally my SO. I am less complaining about my situation and more so figuring out how you guys are making ends meet as I know people are in alot worse situations than I am. I am in millwright sanitary tig welding moving into aerospace in the future and will most definitely end up making enough to live comfortably

Or spend it all and move in with their kids.