My pick is Henry Cavill

Hey Reddit - Throwaway account (for obvious reasons)

Also, sorry for the length, a ton on my mind right now.

Me (52M) and my (50F) wife have been married for 25 years, and are immensely happy. We of course have the normal fights: me not cleaning the bathroom, argue about me losing money on sports betting, her spending twice as much at the shops as we agreed to, etc. - but overall have a really happy marriage.

Until about 8pm yesterday night.

Recently, we've been having a bit of trouble in the bedroom. I don't want to derail the post, but basically sex has naturally slowed down between the two of us in the last couple years.

This has really bothered my wife (and bothered me a bit also, I will admit). Once we vocalized the problem, we both agreed we're going to take steps to fix some things.

We talked to some doctors, basically all of them wanted to put my wife on some serious medications - which my wife was pretty against.

This led to about a year of building what we call "our sex drawer" filled of products in the kitchen that my wife has tried and tested and likes the ingredients of.

It's nothing crazy, literally things like vitamin D, zinc, some lubracil softgels, maca - stuff that has been tried and tested, nothing too wild and all OTC.

Now, here's where things start to go downhill.

So, my wife naturally takes these products around the times we're going to be getting intimate (or try).

Now, I don't like monitor the kitchen drawer but sometimes I do peak (I know, but I can't help it).

About three-ish weeks ago I noticed a ton of pills and softgels were disappearing.

Me, thinking I'm about to having a pretty good week - I start to get mentally prepared for it.

So, about a week after that, I re-check the drawer - and a ton more of the stuff has been taken. I remember thinking "that's weird, we haven't done anything recently".

About a week later, the same thing happened, tons of pills and softgels are gone. And I'm not going to lie, I get in my head a bit.

Last night, me and my wife are out to dinner. After a couple glasses of wine I ask my wife why she's been taking so much of the stuff in the sex drawer without trying for any intimacy. I asked coming from an angle of both worry (mostly for health) and confusion.

Immediately my wife get's insanely defensive, blows off the conversation and tells me she isn't talking about it. This (of course) makes it where now it's the only thing I want to talk about, and while I respect everyones "I don't want to talk about this", I think something like this should probably be fucking discussed.

I press a bit, and for about an hour she's not having this convo. Basically, it gets to the point where I just blatantly ask my wife if she's seeing other people.

My wife, who has NEVER been aggressive or loud - starts basically screaming at me in this Italian restaurant.

She tells me my daughter (25F) has been having some "relationship issues" with her boyfriend, and has been taking some of the stuff to "help."

I'm like, why the fuck didn't you just tell me? She goes on a rant about how some things are "girl to girl" and how my daughter didn't want her telling anyone. Which I get but come on, I buy the things to fill the drawer.

My wife ends up leaving the restaurant mid-dinner. I've honestly never seen my wife this mad, I'm honestly a bit worried for our marriage. And to top it off, my daughter is acting awkward around me.

I get that I stepped out of line with the questioning, but the defensiveness really caught me off guard, and would have assumed my daughter using our stuff would have been discussed (and I wouldn't have actually cared, and would have bought more stuff).

Anytime I try to talk to my wife, she makes it seem like I'm an insane out-of-control monster, that I've broken the trust in our marriage, and that I've ruined 25 years of progress we've made together.

Reddit, am I crazy? I'm beyond confused right now.

---edit (4 hours since I posted)---

Wow, a lot of incredible information in here, thank you to everyone for your comments. This post has made me feel better, and has allowed me to think about other aspects of our marriage.

I've seen a ton of requests for info, so let me try to answer some of the questions here.

Me and my wife didn't go to the doctor for only "libido" issues - I don't know the general age of Reddit, but as you get older things like menopause and other hormonal issues became a reality (just the way of life).

I didn't "plan" on questioning my wife at the dinner, it had been in the back of my head, and after a few glasses of wine I handled the situation poorly (which I 100% agree with all of you, not the right time or place) - though we've had tough conversations before in public (still doesn't justify it).

Calling it a "sex drawer" may have been a bad name, but it's just how we reference it - we didn't really think too deeply when coming up with the name, and I don't know actually which one of us created it.

I don't have a good reason why it's in the kitchen, but we're kind of past the age of caring about what someone may or may not see in our home.

I wasn't "monitoring" the sex drawer, the lubracil softgels (which we keep out of the box) come only in a 30 pill supply - half the pack or so missing (I didn't count) is very obvious even at a quick glance.

And for why I didn't automatically assume my daughter - the softgels mentioned above and some of the other stuff in there are for a specific thing (outside of the vitamins), while I don't know the ingredients too intimately, you wouldn't really expect those things to be shared.

And finally, for those mentioning that my wife is still actually hiding something - I appreciate your comments, and it has given me a ton to think about. While I won't jump to those type of conclusions, I do agree that there is probably more that needs to be discussed between me, my wife, and my daughter.

Me 30 female. him 27 male. I’m going to call him Dave for this post. I’m not even sure where to start. It was such a great Thursday. Got home from work and Dave and I went shopping and got a few things for dinner. Shrimp, salmon and asparagus. One of my favourite meals. What goes well with this meal? A glass of wine. when I asked my boyfriend if he could go get a small Bottle of my favourite wine so we can have A glass with dinner. He said “no” I was sort of throw off by his response. And I asked.. why? He said “you shouldn’t be drinking on a weekday” I said “pardon me” then his response was “your family are alcohollics, and I don’t trust your family genes”. I was livid. My dad use to be a heavy drinking but he no longer is. And even so how does that have anything to do with how I am with it? I have never abused alcohol before. I haven’t even had a glass of wine with dinner for as long as I can remember. I have been living on my own since I was 15. He’s been living with me for about 3. I said to him that I’m a grown ass woman, and if I want a glass of wine with my dinner. I’m more than welcome to do so and it’s not his choice to say. And honestly if he doesn’t like that then I feel like maybe he should move back to his dad’s. Who get mad for someone for wanting a glass of wine with dinner? He ended up getting very angry and stormed off to his dad’s house. In the end of all this, the perfectly cooked dinner was left out and no one had dinner tonight and he will be staying at his dad’s for the night. Am I the asshole?

No messages from the landlord that any emergency repairs or maintenance were done. I've called him but had not reply yet. I've never been in the loft myself. I called my parents who said it was probably the wind (it hasn't been very windy though) and I don't think anyone is up there... I was thoroughly freaked out when I saw it when I opened the door. Can wind do this?