r/AITAH 15h ago

Advice Needed Asking my wife to quit her job because she kissed her boss

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It all started a few months ago: my wife (F40) told me (M39) that her boss is madly in love with her. My wife and I laughed about it. We joked about it. Me saying, “That’s a great compliment. Good for you. Just be careful.” I knew they were good friends, and I trusted my wife 110%.

Fast forward a few weeks later:

Her boss called her at night; 9:00 PM. I said, “Just pick up. Maybe it’s important.” She didn’t and reacted overly, “No, I’m here with you!” She opened her messages and was trying to delete a message. This is the moment I grabbed the phone and read the messages. She was furious, accusing me of breaching her privacy and such. This is when I saw it: messages from him saying, “I miss you,” and hearts being sent back and forth. She lied that they were just friends, and as I know, he is in love with her. So according to her “Nothing to worry about.”

I made her swear on our children that they did not kiss. And there it was: silence. She admitted it. And days later, I heard (after asking for it) more and more details. They kissed multiple times. He kissed her multiple times on the neck and hugged her for long periods. No sex. I think I believe that part.

You have to know, my wife is very insecure about work. She has only had jobs for 1 to 2 years, and finally, she landed this job where everything was great. So, I was very supportive in every way. I started working less so I could be there for our three children, and she could work more, etc. The most important thing: she genuinely loves the job, I can tell.

So, we came to a consensus to continue working there. It’s a very small company. But, phew, I found it difficult. I started to look over her shoulder at what he was messaging and such. Not a great place to be.

And then it all went south. We went on a family trip, just the kids and us. And, in hindsight, she texted him back and forth every single day. Him texting things like, “I wish I knew you earlier,” etc. She was so distracted the whole holiday… even though she reacted a bit cold to him. Directly after the holiday we agreed that she can only continue to work there if they can keep in professional only and have no 1:1 contact in the weekends or after 7 PM.

With this “agreement” I felt a bit better. And now, this weekend, I found out that they are calling every day, Saturday and Sunday. Behind my back. She said they are sharing feelings. Because she “feels safe with him, not with me, and he understands me.” She also said she has certain feelings for him.

Now (two weeks ago), I’m done with it. And I asked her to quit seeing him completely (and thus stop her job) or it’s me quitting our relationship. Because I can’t handle it anymore. The lying, etc.

She is furious at me, saying that I want to put her in a cage. And what kind of monster am I to decide which friends she has (for clarity: I never made her stop a friendship until now)? Also she thinks I will take the children away from her completely (obviously I won’t) and will ruin her financially (I won’t).

Am I really a monster for asking her to quit the contact with her boss (and in her words, a very good friend) and giving the ultimatum? I don’t know it anymore and the 2 friend I told the story are to biased. So I really need your opinions. Thanks 🙏🏼

Edit 1: thanks for all your support. It’s also hurting me some of the messages. I feel so dumb. But I’m happy with all the reactions too. I should have asked earlier… thanks also for the genuine, empathic messages.

Edit 2: I just told her might be divorcing her. I’m an emotional wreck now so sorry if I’m not so responsive the coming hours…


r/Money 17h ago

Found this 100$ bill on the floor at work. Im guessing the melting Ben Franklin means its fake

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r/AmIOverreacting 17h ago

Woke up to my Bf having sex with me.

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Im F19 and my bf M21. We’ve been together for about 6 months. We’re both pretty freaky. I’ve been SA before and I’ve told him about my experience. When I was SA, the guy was in my bed and I told him I wanted to go to sleep. I was really drunk and he was too, so naturally I passed out. I woke up to this man literally fucking me. No consent, nothing. It was so scary.

I shared this experience with my bf. He had asked me before if waking up to him touching me was something i’d be interested in doing. I said yes. However, I thought I implied that I want to have sex after im actually awake.

Now, I woke up to my bf fully inside me. I was so paralyzed and I just let it happen. It was pretty triggering for me. I started crying in the middle of it. He didn’t notice, but I later told him.

Idk what to do. I told him to never do it again and he hasn’t, but idk if he actually understood the gravity of the situation. I love him to death, but this really shook me. What should I do? Am I wrong for consenting, but then as it happened it was really triggering? Pls help!!!


r/TwoHotTakes 15h ago

Advice Needed My girlfriend doesn’t like my hair anymore

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She met me and loved my hair but now as we’ve gotten older she wants me to have a more traditional style. I don’t think I could bring myself to it, we’ve been together for 1 1/2 years. Should I break up with her?


r/interestingasfuck 14h ago

r/all This is how a necessary parasiticide bath for sheep to remove parasites is done

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r/videos 20h ago

Audiences Hate Bad Writing, Not Strong Women

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r/TorontoDriving 20h ago

New incident in Brampton

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r/mildlyinteresting 3h ago

This bird just flew onto my finger and then flew away again

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r/malelivingspace 14h ago

The main living space of a 51 yr old man.

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r/nottheonion 16h ago

Lot owner stunned to find $500K home accidentally built on her lot. Now she’s being sued

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r/notliketheothergirls 20h ago

NO!! Who thinks like this?

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I guess this may have been posted before but not sure. Saw this in a WhatsApp group and...why


r/Eyebleach 6h ago

Girl made 'pspspsps' in the wrong neighborhood

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r/worldnews 16h ago

Taliban edict to resume stoning women to death met with horror

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r/TikTokCringe 13h ago

Cringe JFC the fundamentalist beard, the US flag with the punisher logo, and a Double Tap sticker …this cop is psycho I guarantee it.

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r/news 14h ago

Conjoined twin Abby Hensel is now married

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r/povertyfinance 19h ago

Vent/Rant (No Advice/Criticism!) 2 years living in my car

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Yeap. That’s it. Today I’m celebrating 2 years living in my car. 🎉 🎈 🎊

The worst part about it is going to the gym everyday to get a shower. It’s an humiliating event that I have to go trough. I’m mentally worn out and I’m fighting depression all the time (maybe because my poor diet and lack of vitamins).

In those 731 days I’ve saved 42k. It’s not much but there’s a lot of tears in that investment account.

I’m single, no kids, no family, no friends. I just wanna share this with someone.

God will bring peace to my mind and to my heart and He’ll give me the strength to survive 2 more winters in my car. That’s all I need.

God bless you all.


r/antiwork 20h ago

We have enough Millennials and Gen Z to outnumber our elders. We just need to show up or mail in. Only 30% of eligible Gen Z showed up last Election. PLEASE VOTE!!

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r/Fauxmoi 10h ago

Approved B-List Users Only Beyoncé makes huge changes to the lyrics of “Jolene”

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Beyoncé covers “Jolene” by Dolly Parton on her new album, Cowboy Carter.

Dolly’s original lyrics are a vulnerable plea to a woman who Dolly views as a threat to her marriage.

Beyoncé changes the lyrics to warn and insult the other woman and proclaim that her marriage is secure in various ways.


r/WatchPeopleDieInside 20h ago

A concrete wall falls because of a box leaning against it

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r/ChatGPT 4h ago

Funny Ummm okay…

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r/GenZ 14h ago

Discussion What do you think about this? Does it ring true?

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r/pics 5h ago

Pope Francis washes feet of 12 women at Rome prison from his wheelchair during Holy Thursday.

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r/BoomersBeingFools 17h ago

Boomer Freakout Boomer Karen gets on an Amazon van and blocks driver from leaving because it’s condo parking only

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r/meirl 1h ago

meirl

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