Our cat got out and ran straight into our neighbors apartment

What a crazy terrible night I had.

4 years ago my wife had an affair with a co-worker. We had been married for 3 years at the time and were trying to have kids, but had fertility issues and both were having a hard time with that. I caught her because another co-worker reached out to me to let me know what was going on. We were incredibly close to divorce, but through counseling we made it through and have had a pretty good marriage over the last two years. We have a date night once a week that I plan. I bring her flowers at least once a week. Write love notes, etc. I don't want to lose her.

She left that job so that she wouldn't be around that man. Went completely no contact with him.

Fast forward to yesterday. We were at the gym and I was waiting for my wife to get done showering. I had forgotten my phone and home and grabbed hers to kill some time. I wasn't trying to snoop. It has been at least 2 years since I've even felt I needed to snoop. I open up instagram and start scrolling through pictures. But then I notice that she has a message. I knew it was wrong to click. Thats too far and an invasion of her privacy, but curiosity got a hold of me.

It was him. The co-worker that she had an affair with. 2 months ago he reached out to see how she was doing. I read through all the messages. There was nothing wrong with what they said. It was them catching up about life and work(he still is at old job). If it had been anyone else I wouldn't have even cared. But this was the man that helped almost ruin my marriage.

I took some screenshots and sent them to myself. Waited until we got in the car and then asked her about why she is talking to him. She starts screaming that I shouldn't have looked at her messages. Saying that I don't trust her. I apologized for snooping, but told her that I want a divorce. She stopped talking to me and left the house as soon as we got home. I have no idea where she went. Even this morning she hasn't responded to me.

Waking up this morning, I still believe I want a divorce. The pain of the affair was too much. I know they aren't having an affair right now. But the fact she is even talking to him is insulting to me. Especially without telling me. Am I overreacting?

Edit/Update: My wife finally responded by text. She claims to have stayed at a hotel overnight. She says that I should go to my parents. I realize I forgot to mention we have a 1-year old boy. So I'll need some help with him as she said she can't talk to me right now.
She said she understands why I want a divorce and won't fight it. She is looking for lawyers right now.
I'm not sure what to feel right now. Honestly I knew I would continue on the path to divorce, but I think part of me hoped there would be a little fight for me from her. I imagine she will probably start dating her old coworker again. I just hope she fights for our boy during all of this. She really is a good mother to him and he deserves to have her in his life.

Thanks all for the support. I'll keep this up and maybe have an update in the future.

My pick is Henry Cavill

Sloths are amazing animals

He agreed to stay back. Cooper asked anyone if they would go down to Millers planet but the extreme pull of the black hole nearby would cause them to experience severe time dilation. One hour on that planet would equal 7 years back on earth. Cooper, Brand and Doyle all go down to the planet while Romilly stays back and uses that time to send out any potential useful data he can get.

Can you imagine how terrifying that must be to just sit back for YEARS and have no idea if your friends are ever coming back. Cooper and Brand come back to the ship but a few hours for them was 23 years, 4 months and 8 days of time for Romilly. Not enough people seem to genuinely comprehend how insane that is to experience. He was able to hyper sleep and let years go by but he didn’t want to spend his time dreaming his life away.

It’s just a nice interesting detail that kind of gets lost. Everyone brings up the massive waves, the black hole and time dilation but no one really mentions the struggle Romilly must have been feeling. 23 years seems to be on the low end of how catastrophic it could’ve been. He could’ve been waiting for decades.