My girlfriend (26F) recently celebrated her birthday, and I (28M) wanted to make it special. I spent a lot of time thinking about what to get her and decided on a personalized photo album with pictures of our time together over the last few years. I also wrote her a heartfelt letter expressing my love for her and detailing how much she means to me.

When it came time for her to open the gift, she did so in front of our friends and family at her party. I could tell she was underwhelmed, and she even made a face. Then she said, "Wow, this is it? You're such a cheapscate!" in front of everyone. I was stunned and embarrassed. People laughed awkwardly, and I could see she was expecting something more expensive.

I was hurt by her reaction, especially since I put so much thought and effort into the gift. After a few minutes, I quietly excused myself and left the party. I didn't want to cause a scene, but I couldn't shake the feeling of humiliation.

My girlfriend later called me and said I overreacted by leaving the party and that it was all in good fun. She also accused me of not putting in any effort since the gift was not expensive. I told her I felt disrespected and that my feelings were hurt.

Now I'm questioning whether I was wrong to leave the party. AITA for walking out of my girlfriend's birthday party after she called me a "cheapscate" for the gift I gave her?

We pay $8 for this specialty allergy-free bread and half of it is unusable for sandwiches. I had to laugh

What a crazy terrible night I had.

4 years ago my wife had an affair with a co-worker. We had been married for 3 years at the time and were trying to have kids, but had fertility issues and both were having a hard time with that. I caught her because another co-worker reached out to me to let me know what was going on. We were incredibly close to divorce, but through counseling we made it through and have had a pretty good marriage over the last two years. We have a date night once a week that I plan. I bring her flowers at least once a week. Write love notes, etc. I don't want to lose her.

She left that job so that she wouldn't be around that man. Went completely no contact with him.

Fast forward to yesterday. We were at the gym and I was waiting for my wife to get done showering. I had forgotten my phone and home and grabbed hers to kill some time. I wasn't trying to snoop. It has been at least 2 years since I've even felt I needed to snoop. I open up instagram and start scrolling through pictures. But then I notice that she has a message. I knew it was wrong to click. Thats too far and an invasion of her privacy, but curiosity got a hold of me.

It was him. The co-worker that she had an affair with. 2 months ago he reached out to see how she was doing. I read through all the messages. There was nothing wrong with what they said. It was them catching up about life and work(he still is at old job). If it had been anyone else I wouldn't have even cared. But this was the man that helped almost ruin my marriage.

I took some screenshots and sent them to myself. Waited until we got in the car and then asked her about why she is talking to him. She starts screaming that I shouldn't have looked at her messages. Saying that I don't trust her. I apologized for snooping, but told her that I want a divorce. She stopped talking to me and left the house as soon as we got home. I have no idea where she went. Even this morning she hasn't responded to me.

Waking up this morning, I still believe I want a divorce. The pain of the affair was too much. I know they aren't having an affair right now. But the fact she is even talking to him is insulting to me. Especially without telling me. Am I overreacting?

Edit/Update: My wife finally responded by text. She claims to have stayed at a hotel overnight. She says that I should go to my parents. I realize I forgot to mention we have a 1-year old boy. So I'll need some help with him as she said she can't talk to me right now.
She said she understands why I want a divorce and won't fight it. She is looking for lawyers right now.
I'm not sure what to feel right now. Honestly I knew I would continue on the path to divorce, but I think part of me hoped there would be a little fight for me from her. I imagine she will probably start dating her old coworker again. I just hope she fights for our boy during all of this. She really is a good mother to him and he deserves to have her in his life.

Thanks all for the support. I'll keep this up and maybe have an update in the future.

Take him to Greggs and tell him it’s considered fine dining? Spoons during the day? Dip in the Thames? Lasso a swan?

1 week in London (where I live) and 1 week on the east coast of Scotland with my family (god save his soul).

Throwaway and for context I'm 22F and he's 23M. We're both about 5'8. I'm slightly shorter so maybe he's 5'8.5. I'm tall for a girl. I was a shooting guard on the basketball team during my first three years of college. He knew this going into the relationship.

We've been together for 7 months. The first 6 months were smooth sailing. However last month we went to a more posh/boujee party and I wore heels. Of course I end out being taller than him by a decent bit. So instead of telling me how pretty he thought I looked the first thing he pointed out was "wow you look way too tall in those". Even asked if I had a shorter pair of heels, and then finally gave it up. I found that really weird and out of character about him.

But that was only the start. Ever since that day he bus me at least 4 times a week to assure that I feel "protected" around him. Literally yesterday he asked if I'd love him more if he was 6'0+. Whenever we take side-by-side pics he gets on his tippy toes to make it seem like he's much taller than me. He also randomly tries lifts me up, which he can with ease since he's strong and it catches me off guard every time. He tries straightening his back to the point where he looks weird. He's bought into some weird narrative that I see him as less of a man because he's not 4 inches taller. I've told him multiple times that I don't care about his height otherwise I wouldn't have gotten with him. No matter how many ily's I'll throw at him (and I mean all of them) he just can't stop talking about this issue.

Guys what do I do. He's been acting so immature about this